How you can assist the chemically dependent
Don't be party to secrets - don't enable.
Addiction thrives in secrecy, so don't be party to this. As uncomfortable as it may be, do not lie or cover up for the addict. Allow them to face the full consequences of their addiction. Reduce the shame and the stigma by open, meaningful dialogue about addiction.
Learn to say no!
Don't feel bad about setting boundaries. We have to know where we end and the other person begins. Unhealthy enmeshment causes both parties to become sicker.
Don't nag or make threats that can not be followed through.
Say what you mean; mean what you say; don't say it mean. By enabling the addict you risk keeping them from hitting a bottom that they may need to hit to smash them from their denial.
Seek support for yourself.
Associate with others who can identify with the territory of dealing with addicted persons. If you isolate yourself you wil be constantly questioning yourself and not trusting your own decisions.
Educate yourself about addiction.
Read literature to gain a better understanding of the addiction process and how it impacts the psychological, physical and spiritual aspects of the substance-affected individual.
Learn about the recovery process.
Attend some twelve-step support groups such as Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-Anon, Nar-Anon, Narcotics Anonymous, Cocaine Anonymous or Co-Depedents Anonymous.
Participate in the recovery process.
Learn to detach with love and set appropriate boundaries with the addicted person.
Engage in a thorough self-care program.
Make sure you have the physical, emotional and spiritual resouces to provide suitable help. Take the focus off the addicted person and put it back on yourself.
Assist others.
Co-dependency evolves when dealing with an addicted person. By sharing what you have learned you will be providing a service to others, which will enhance your self-esteem.
Find community resources.
Many resources are available in your community or area for those affected by substance abuse.
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